How to Dress like a Lesbian
By Angela Rae
I came out and immediately cut my hair off and dyed what little I had left bright pink. Put on some boxers, a wife beater, and some men’s jeans. My family wasn’t exactly pleased with this new look but I didn’t care. I’m here. I’m queer. And I look like a big dyke get used to it! I looked like all my new lesbian friends and for once I finally fit in. That feeling of comfort however, was short lived. I looked at myself in the mirror one day and thought, who is this person? I’m wearing an Indigo Girls t-shirt and I can’t even name one song they sing. My hair is pink. I hate pink. My boxers are sticking out of my pants and in no way do I resemble a sexy Marky Mark.
When I realized I was a lesbian I felt like I needed to physically fit in so I dressed like the lesbians I knew and pretended to be into the same things they were into. By coming out I was telling everyone that I am proud of who I am, however I lost a part of myself in the process. I was pretending to be someone I wasn’t.
I will never forget the day when I met a group of my lesbian friends after being away for a summer, and I was laughed at. My hair was natural in color; I wore shorts above the knee and sported my new penny loafers. They all thought it was hysterical. I laughed with them but as soon as I got home I locked myself in my room cried for three days straight. Here I am again, I thought, alone and not fitting in.
However as I got older, I started to realize I was confusing sexuality with fashion and I think many gays, especially those just coming out, run across that problem. Being gay isn’t about dressing a specific way it’s about being sexually attracted to someone of the same sex. Period. That’s it. Embrace who you are inside and out. Dress how you want to dress whether it’s butch, femme, or somewhere in between. Being gay doesn’t mean you have to change how you look. Your true friends will respect that and will love you for you no matter what you wear, including those sexy penny loafers.